In the last few years, several
books about men and the aftermaths of sexual abuse experienced during
childhood or youth have been published. We believe that those listed
below are of particular interest for different reasons. They could be
the source of new understandings, new perspectives or simply to realize
that “I am not the only one to have gone through
The books appearing on the list
below are not only the ones written in French or by men. The relevance
of the subject of each book is the only reason why we suggest them to
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Je n'avais que onze ans
“I want to lift
the mask to “unrape” me. I know that he will read
me because sometimes he feels guilty. He says that he was “a
little clumsy”. He only let out a little bit of
sperm”. Sexually assaulted from the age of 11 by one of the
educators in charge of his protection at the children resource center,
Jacques Benoit breaks the silence to testify about his
Book vibrating with authenticity written in the
style of a diary, Je
n’avais que onze ans
is one more testimony showing that sexual abuse is an act of power and
violence. The author also denounces the inaction of counsellors in
respect of the aggressors’ denunciation.
book, filled with emotions and well-written, will encourage many
youngsters to defend themselves adequately against deceptions instead
of becoming a victim or an accomplice”.
Alice Miller, psychotherapist and author.
Publisher: Libre Expression
ISBN : 2-7648-0226-9
A novel inspired by real
“…it is not a story about a whale being trampled
that of a child being trampled on over and over again by an
Very good reviews about
it a “must read” work mostly vis-à-vis
notion of “pleasure and climax felt during sexual
To read if you are ready to consider the abuse under a new dimension.
XYZ Publisher, Montréal, 2001.
ISBN : 2-89261-293-4
expressing our determination to live.
“A true and touching story proving that despite tragic
events, we can take back our dreams and be born again”.
Éditions de Mortagne, France, 1998.
ISBN : 2-89074-883-9
Une enfance trahie : Sans
famille, battu, violé
Autobiographic work where
the author narrates his childhood and youth, being left behind in
children resource centers, boarding houses ruled by abuse.
Le jour, Publisher et VLB Publisher,
Ça arrive aussi
aux garçons : L'abus sexuel au masculin
This book gathers together
twelve stories-testimonies of men victims of sexual abuse during their
childhood or youth. These stories are shared through the results of the
research for which they were gathered initially.
“Based on testimonies, this work recalls
the existential questions and critical phases overcome by these boys.
It also describes the strategies boys adopt in order to preserve their
integrity and masculinity. Finally, it suggests help and prevention
VLB Publisher, Montréal, 1997.
ISBN : 2-89005-652-X
fils manqué : que sont les hommes devenus ?
This book does not deal
directly with sexual abuse and its consequences, but about the silenced
imposed on men in general by modern society. A man does not cry, he
takes on… little by little, these silences kill our
authenticity, our will to live, and it isolates us. This book finally
(!) breaks this silence and enlightens us in the abyss of the famous
question “what is being a man?”
Éditions de L'Homme, Montréal, 1996.
ISBN : 2-76190-811-2
La guérison du
coeur : Nos souffrances ont-elles un sens ?
In this book, the author
invites us to look at the suffering in our lives, to face it and to try
to understand it.
“To suffer, maybe, but to suffer in
order to understand, to find the lost intimacy in ourselves and harmony
with the universe, and, by doing so, to open up to others.
Éditions de L'Homme, Montréal, 2000.
ISBN : 2-7619-1535-6
Te laisse pas faire : Les
abus sexuels expliqués aux enfants.
This book is an excellent
tool to address the question of sexual abuse with children between the
ages of 4 to 12. Easy to read, simple exercises… Excellent
“Children must learn that ogres and
wolves are not only found in fairy-tales. This book’s purpose
is for parents and children to become a team, more watchful and
craftier than the predator”.
Éditions de L'Homme, Montréal, 2000.
ISBN : 2-76191-552-6
Victims no longer: Men
recovering from incest and other sexual child abuse
This book is worth to be
read. Easy to read, even though it is a work dealing with psychology.
This book covers everything regarding abuse… From the
consequences of the abuse up to the choice of a counselor and the
method of intervention (group, individual…). Furthermore, it
offers several testimonies from victims of abuse.
HarperCollins Publishers, New York, 1990.
ISBN : 0-06-097300-5
Boundaries: Where you end
and I begin
This small book holds several exercises
in respect of our boundaries. How they were formed or deformed, how to
identify them, modify them…
Fireside/Parkside Books, New York, 1991.
ISBN : 0-671-79193-1